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Mistakes not to make during divorce

On Behalf of | Sep 4, 2020 | Divorce |

Whether a Washington divorce is contentious often depends on the actions of both of the spouses. They can exacerbate the situation by making any one of a number of common divorce mistakes. Divorces do not have to end up in front of the judge in a bitter trial.


Communicate respectfully


One of the biggest ways that you can provoke the other spouse is by either communication in a hostile manner or not communicating at all. When the spouses stop talking to each other, they end up communicating through a lawyer. Not only is this expensive, but it also increases the chances of litigation. You should talk to the other spouse to try to resolve any disputes. The best-case scenario is that you are able to mediate or settle the entire divorce without having to go to court.


Do not try to get everything


Settlement depends on both spouses being reasonable in the negotiation. If you are trying to crush the other spouse, it is understandable that they will take the case to court to get what they feel they deserve. Both spouses’ financial situations are considered in the division of property. You must put yourself in the other spouse’s shoes to understand why they want certain things. Before you start settlement discussions, you need to figure out a budget and what you need to live so that you can formulate a realistic and reasonable negotiating position.


One way to learn how to approach divorce is to hire a divorce attorney. The lawyer may advise you on what not to do during the divorce. They might also help you with negotiating the divorce agreement since it is a delicate process that must be handled properly. Retaining a lawyer could decrease the amount of misunderstanding between the spouses as they might advise you on how to talk to the other spouse. They may also get involved when they sense that the case is heading down an adversarial path.